Domestic Conversation

A little bit here, a little bit there. Well, I have to admit my husband is unique. For one, he's not the romantic type since our dating days. But he always intrigued me with what his next action would be. And I have to admit, I'm not an easy woman to handle. At work, my male colleagues often complained about my manly attitude, and they puzzled how I got married in the first place. Hahahaha... I've got to say I respect my husband for domesticating me, plus thanks to my father and mother also for their great upbringing. Haha.

Domestic conversation is normal in most homes. But recently I've discovered that ours is totally different from other people. Of course there are times we have the usual how's your day, so on and so forth, which normally doesn't need to be asked because the moment we see each other, both of us will burst with a train of events whatever happens on that day. After that we will be bustling with household chores, me with kitchen and laundry and him with the children. Finishing dinner and chores, then our conversation starts. The real one. The one discussing about Muslim history, about the world economy, about political views, about human nature and almost about everything on earth. We even discussed about whether the earth is oval or flat! Then we discover, the more we interact the more our children interact with us.

At first I thought it's normal. But then I realised that I actually gain more knowledge from my husband everyday! Which makes me respect him more. Haha. Whenever I heard my friends complaining how boring their spouses are, I can't help to think that how lucky I am to have a unique relationship with my husband. And I've learned a lot also.

You see, marriage is not a one way communication. I'll say that we also didn't start greatly as expected yet we strive hard to make it work. Similar to other husbands and wives, we had wasted few years trying to live the ideal marriage as pictured by the media and the society. After having two kids, we gave up the ideals and just live as we please.

So instead focusing on meeting the society expectations, we build up our own ideals. We create our stories. We shares our interest. And mind you, we are totally two different person. Instead of forcing one another to accept each other we just go with the flow. He does what he wants and I'll follow him. I do what I want and he follows me. And of course in between we have to draw the boundary, as he's still my husband and I'm still his wife.

As our marriage progresses, I do pray that we will continue striving for our marriage and will not give up easily on each other. Because I understand the marriage challenges are tough and it will come unexpectedly to test the strength of our marriage. May Allah protect my husband and kids and May we always be in his blessings. Aamiin.