Satu Pengajaran

Hari ini aku belajar satu pengajaran yang memberi impak maksima kepada aku. Hahahaha. Okeh, deep impact la. Dulu2 masa kita kecik2 ada belajar dalam buku teks Bahasa Melayu, kisah seorang bapa yang mendamaikan pergaduhan kedua dua anaknya dengan sekotak mancis. Means bersatu kita teguh, bercerai kita roboh. Realitinya sekarang kita sedang bercerai berai. Kita lebih memandang orang luar Dan membiarkan orang luar mempertuankan kita. Amat menyedihkan.

Enriching Myself

Recent events had gotten me thinking. It is time for me to start enriching my life. And I really love to do so by sharing things that I know. Maybe I'll learn something new. Maybe I can determine where my passion really is. For all I've known, I'm jack of all trade. I've done a lot of things without really focusing on what I really love. I just love trying things out. As my age progresses, it's time for me to be more specific on what I wanna do.

For a long time, I've been thinking to create a blog that can be a source of reference for students. I guess I'll do so. Wish me luck ya.

Not A Typical Malay Lady

Where should I start? Hmmmm..... Lately I've been observing women behavior and social trend and also reading the writings in social media. And what I've seen is women around the world becoming more independent, bold and self sufficient. Not to mention, more confident. Kudos.

And as opposed to some beliefs, women nowadays embrace education and men, becoming more and more supportive to women. This is a good sign. Though I do acknowledged that in some places, women are still oppressed, yet it is undeniable that the growing numbers of educated and independent women signifies a change occurs. And the world will embrace it whether they like it or not.

And I, I am a Malay lady. To the eyes of the society, I have standards to uphold, religion to practice and traditions to embrace. As Malay lady is often portrayed as soft spoken, feminine, mild, kind, passive, hardworking, respect others and obedient.

But me, except for being kind and respect others, quite the contrary. I'm aggressive, I stand equal to my men subordinates at work, I voiced out my opinion and my husband team up with me managing our home and kids. I have zero tolerance on bullying or violence and I can't stand betrayal or unfair treatment to others. I can even debate with my men counterparts and my discussions with my husband are often on heavy subjects which most people won't believe that we are merely discussing it for fun. Hahahaha.

Yes, I'm not a typical Malay lady. My men colleagues can't even understand how my husband can stand me (actually I'm quite different at work as compared to at home. Hehehe). But, being so doesn't permit me to be rude. Or in Malay, kurang ajar. I may not embrace everything written on the tradition book yet I still uphold my standards, merely because I'm a human being. Yes. I respect others because I want to be respected. I'm not rude because I can't tolerate rudeness. And I do so because I'm human.

Being dumb and respecting others are two different things. Being dumb and being patient also are two different things. I respect my husband because he earned my respect. He worth it. And although I'm quite aggressive at work, I still respect my colleagues.

Thus, being not a typical Malay lady doesn't permit me to be rude or disrespect others. Instead its only an evolution of Malay ladies towards betterment and improvements without sacrificing the standards that we uphold.

So ladies, let's rock and roll!

21 May 2016
23.23

REALITI DALAM SEBUAH PERKAHWINAN 001

Hahahaha... tajuk post yang bikin nervous. Lately ni aku banyak membuat perbandingan. Tettttt! Bukan bandingkan en. suami dengan orang lain tetapi membandingkan realiti dan teori berkenaan perkahwinan. Selalunya aku berpikir pelik2 nih time cuci pinggan dan lipat baju. Sebab ambik masa kan nak buat dua bende alah ni so otak pon sempatla menerawang jauhhhhhhh....

Realitinya surviving marriage bukan mudah. Sebab apa aku cakap bukan mudah, sebab banyak faktor mempengaruhi. Silap-silap boleh buat SWOT Analysis. Bukan setakat nak terima kelebihan dan kekurangan pasangan seadanya, tapi it's so much more than that. Dan sejujurnya, nak survive tahun ke tahun tu pun bukan senang tau! Sebenarnya lebih senang uruskan kerja di pejabat daripada menguruskan perkahwinan.

Namun, aku sukaaaa sangat berpegang kepada satu perkataan yang belajar daripada buku Ustaz Hasrizal. Tak ingat dah nama buku. Bahawa setiap insan (bukan manusia yek, aku guna istilah insan menggambarkan individu yang punya perasaan dan hatiperut) miliki IHSAN. Dan bahawa cinta, kecantikan, sayang dan lain2 boleh pudar dengan masa namun IHSAN adalah anugerah ALLAH yang paling bermakna, Perkataan omputeh paling dekat adalah appreciate. Namun IHSAN sebenarnya lebih mendalam dan lebih bermakna daripada menghargai.

Apabila duduk sebumbung, kita akan hadap segalanya. Bukan pasangan saja, malah seluruh pakej kehidupan pasangan. Nantilah ada masa aku kupas lagi yek.

Tapi aku nak ingatkan, bukan aku nak buka pekung di dada or nak mengajar cara hidup bahagia. Oh No! Jauh sekali. Aku cuma nak kasik can adik2 yang lena diulit romantika untuk membuat pertimbangan sewajarnya sebelum terjun sebarangan ke alam perkahwinan. Dan segala yang tercatat adalah pandangan peibadi aku secara keseluruhannya. Tidak berkaitan dengan siapa2. 

Dua pendekar dah ngantok tapi gagah bersilat. Si kecik kat dalam pulak lapar. So akan bersambung ke entri lain la yek. Kalo aku rajin arrrrr.... Hahahahaha

18 Mei 2016

11.42 malam.

The anger, disappointment and unfair.

Can't sleep tonight. For I'm feeling unfair and disappointed. Which led to anger. Which I dislike. Not to mention feeling betrayed and at the meantime also feeling guilty. I've my weaknesses and I really much disliked being taken advantage on. I do wonder why some people so hell bent just to show off how good they are but at the meantime pretending that they couldn't care less. And I'm sick and tired of people busy investigating my whereabouts when actually there are people who actually absent from work more frequent than I am. What are they trying to prove? I feel betrayed when one of my trusted colleagues doing so. When the person provokes the sense of disbelieve among my subordinates. For what purpose? If you are the star, so be it. If you crave for attention, I couldn't care less. If you want to be boss favourite's just take it all. I'm not interested in all that. Just take it all. So I guess I'm starting to burn bridges now. And washing my hands off. And I'm not going to be the way I was again. And for the people I've intended, I hope all of you are happy, as happy as you can be. Please, unlike some of you, I do know that I can survive almost everywhere. So it doesn't matter. Thus please, don't think I'm like you bcoz I'm not.