Not A Typical Malay Lady

Where should I start? Hmmmm..... Lately I've been observing women behavior and social trend and also reading the writings in social media. And what I've seen is women around the world becoming more independent, bold and self sufficient. Not to mention, more confident. Kudos.

And as opposed to some beliefs, women nowadays embrace education and men, becoming more and more supportive to women. This is a good sign. Though I do acknowledged that in some places, women are still oppressed, yet it is undeniable that the growing numbers of educated and independent women signifies a change occurs. And the world will embrace it whether they like it or not.

And I, I am a Malay lady. To the eyes of the society, I have standards to uphold, religion to practice and traditions to embrace. As Malay lady is often portrayed as soft spoken, feminine, mild, kind, passive, hardworking, respect others and obedient.

But me, except for being kind and respect others, quite the contrary. I'm aggressive, I stand equal to my men subordinates at work, I voiced out my opinion and my husband team up with me managing our home and kids. I have zero tolerance on bullying or violence and I can't stand betrayal or unfair treatment to others. I can even debate with my men counterparts and my discussions with my husband are often on heavy subjects which most people won't believe that we are merely discussing it for fun. Hahahaha.

Yes, I'm not a typical Malay lady. My men colleagues can't even understand how my husband can stand me (actually I'm quite different at work as compared to at home. Hehehe). But, being so doesn't permit me to be rude. Or in Malay, kurang ajar. I may not embrace everything written on the tradition book yet I still uphold my standards, merely because I'm a human being. Yes. I respect others because I want to be respected. I'm not rude because I can't tolerate rudeness. And I do so because I'm human.

Being dumb and respecting others are two different things. Being dumb and being patient also are two different things. I respect my husband because he earned my respect. He worth it. And although I'm quite aggressive at work, I still respect my colleagues.

Thus, being not a typical Malay lady doesn't permit me to be rude or disrespect others. Instead its only an evolution of Malay ladies towards betterment and improvements without sacrificing the standards that we uphold.

So ladies, let's rock and roll!

21 May 2016
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